“Different Quotes.”

by different people

… and I’m staying

Quote – Love “Love says: I’ve seen the ugly parts of you, and I’m staying.” Matt Chandler Let me help you to see the beauty in what you now may see as your ugly parts… All KidR Quotes  

2 types of pain

BDSM There is pain that alerts your perception and… there is pain that alters your perception 😛 Hans All KidR Quotes  

A little objectification

self-discovery Nothing wrong with a little objectification here and there… As long as you are the object of your desire!. Hans In het seksueel spel kan juist een beetje objectificatie zorgen dat men makkelijker aan de verantwoordelijkheden, de mindsets en … Lees verder

A right to command merely because you are older…

Quote – BDSM “I do not think, sir, you have any right to command me, merely because you are older than I, or because you have seen more of the world than I have; your claim to superiority depends on … Lees verder

An apology has its right place

Quote – Self-discovery “An apology in the right place is good for the soul. But too much of that good thing weakens selfworth or weakens relations.” Hans All KidR Quotes

Anxiety turns one back on oneself

“Anxiety suggests a fear while Desire takes one out of oneself, into the possibility or relationship, but it also takes one deeper into oneself. Anxiety turns one back on oneself, but only onto the self that is already known.” Lees verder

Are you a priority or an option?

Never make someone a priority who sees you only as an option. Lees verder

Being life’s bitch is no fun at all

Quote – BDSM “By all means be submissive in the bedroom (if you are that way inclined), but don’t be submissive to life. Being life’s bitch is no fun at all. Life may play up in many ways, but it’s … Lees verder

Consent is mutual discovery

Lust Consensual sex is a mutual discovery of where everyone overlaps in their desires. Unknown ConSenterKlaas (cadeautje: een workshop) Ik ben een aantal workshops aan het geven over consent en wil wat meer feeling ontwikkelen in de praktijk voor verschillende … Lees verder

Consent is not…

BDSM ‘Consent’ through fear is not consent. ‘Consent’ through guilt is not consent. ‘Consent’ through pestering, begging or pleading is not consent. @equality_matters2020 All KidR Quotes  

Continually seduce consent from the bottom

Quote – BDSM “The number one job of the dominant is to continually seduce consent from the bottom.” Joseph Bean All KidR Quotes

De kwaliteit van een BDSM-sessie en de nasmaak

Quote – BDSM naSMaak “Aan de nasmaak van een maaltijd kan je vaak meer zeggen over de kwaliteit van de producten in die maaltijd dan aan de smaak op het moment van het eten.” Hans (bij een BDSM-sessie heb ik … Lees verder

Denken over ons kompas

self-discovery We begrijpen eigenlijk altijd achteraf pas wat we waarom deden… Maar we zullen voorwaarts onze beslissingen moeten maken… dus voordat we dit overzicht hebben. En het enige dat we hebben is het kompas van ons gevoel en de planning … Lees verder

Dirty and nasty but I wanted more

Quote – BDSM “I’d done it, I’d crossed the line between accepted behavior and behavior most of the population would consider a lynching offense, and that morning I felt as real as any of the men in the Escape commercials. … Lees verder

Dit is je leven

self-discovery Misschien heb je meerdere levens? Dat weet ik niet… Maar je hebt maar één leven als jou! Een leven waarin we dingen kunnen maken en waar we dingen in kunnen laten groeien. En we kunnen in een enkel moment … Lees verder

Does a demand for respect means giving up freedom?

Quote – LOVE “I think too many equate respect with exclusivity and think that a demand for respect means giving up freedom. They are independent of each other” @Darenzia All KidR Quotes

Een groot nadeel van cheating

Quote – Lust (Humor) “Een groot nadeel van cheating is dat het altijd uitkomt op een moment… dat het niet uitkomt.” Hans All KidR Quotes

Einen Rest von Illusionen

Quote – Relatie “Um gemeinsam leben zu können, muss man sich einen Rest von Illusionen bewahren.” Gabriel Marcel All KidR Quotes

Everything is about sex

Quote – BDSM “Everything in the world is about sex except sex… Sex is about power.” Oscar Wilde< All KidR Quotes

Fases in het integreren van kink in een leven

Humor Fases in het integreren van kink in een leven… Dat je merkt: Mijn auto correct is aan het verkinksteren!… en DIT moment is en nou ECHT effe een moment om NIET op “send” klikken All KidR Quotes  

Fear that would excite and fear that…

Quote – BDSM “There was a fine line between fear that would excite and fear that would paralyze the senses.” Cherise Sinclair (in: Club Shadowlands) All KidR Quotes

Geluk: hoofd, hart en bekken op één lijn

self-discovery Geluk is als je jouw hoofd, je hart en je bekken op één lijn krijgt… Dat je hoofd snapt wat jouw hart nodig heeft en wat jouw bekken nodig heeft. Dat je snapt wanneer je jouw wensen moet begrenzen … Lees verder

Greta Garbo: I have never had an impulse to go to the altar

“There are some who want to get married and others who don’t. I have never had an impulse to go to the altar. I am a difficult person to lead.”
Greta Garbo (in: Greta and Cecil) Lees verder

Harde grenzen, zachte grenzen, zoete grenzen.

self-discovery Veel kinksters moeten aan zichzelf toch wel toegeven dat sommige harde grenzen verschoven zijn naar zachte grenzen, dat een aantal zachte grenzen zoete grenzen werden, mischien zelfs zoete wensen geworden zijn. Hans West (dit wordt wel de “taboo-cascade”* genoemd) … Lees verder

Having someone on their knees for you makes you vulnerable

Quote – BDSM “I had no idea it would be like this. That having someone on their knees for you would make you so vulnerable.” Alexis Hall (in: For Real) All KidR Quotes

Het risico van “don’t ask, don’t tell”

Quote – Relatie (Lust) Het risico van “don’t ask, don’t tell” is dat met een beetje pech ineens blijkt dat je met z’n tweeën twee totaal verschillende relaties blijkt te hebben met elkaar… Hans Dat verschil tussen fantasie en realiteit … Lees verder

I had no idea it would be like this

Quote – BDSM/self-discovery “I had no idea it would be like this. That having someone on their knees for you would make you so vulnerable.” Annabel Joseph, Cirque de Minuit All KidR Quotes

I hid my shameful perversions under a facade of prudishness

self-discovery “Thus, I lived in perpetual fantasy. And like all intelligent young women, I hid my shameful perversions under a facade of prudishness. Of course I did. It’s easy to tell the dirtiest minds-look for the cleanest fingernails.” Ottessa Moshfegh … Lees verder

I just want to feel

Lust “I will teach you in time, but for now restrain me and have your way with me. I don’t want to think, I just want to feel.” Laci Paige, The Silken Edge All KidR Quotes  

If a relationship has to be a secret…

Quote – LOVE “If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.” Regina Brett All KidR Quotes

If there is already a rip in the fabric of your relationship…

Relationship If there is already a rip in the fabric of your relationship you need little energy from either side to tear the next thread in the fabric… Hans All KidR Quotes  

If you can fake that, you’re in! ;-)

Quote – HUMOR “Honesty is the key to a relationship. If you can fake that, you’re in!” L Molotoff All KidR Quotes

If you wanna be tough, grow a vagina

Quote – Humor “Why do people say “grow some balls”? Balls are weak and sensitive. If you wanna be tough, grow a vagina. Those things can take a pounding.” Betty White

In boeien out of the closet

self-discovery Seks is te mooi om in de closet te houden… Achter tralies: ja In boeien: ja …Maar NIET in the closet 😉 Unknown All KidR Quotes   “He needed the hand on his shoulder, the kiss to his temple … Lees verder

Is it the collar or the happiness?

Quote – BDSM “You look extra beautiful tonight, Ker.” “It’s the collar.” “Maybe. I think it’s the happiness. You wear it well.” “It’s the same thing.” Sean Michael (in: Trust) All KidR Quotes

Ishtar – Pasen

self-discovery ishtar is de naam van de godin Assyrische en Babylonische godin van seks en van voortplanting. Nadat Constantijn besloot om Christendom als het algemeen geloof aan te nemen voor zijn rijk werd het feest van Ishtar maar aan Jezus … Lees verder

It’s been so long since I made love #JoanRivers

Quote – LUST “It’s been so long since I made love I can’t even remember who gets tied up.” Joan Rivers All KidR Quotes

It’s hard to turn the head off

Quote – BDSM “It’s hard for an educated woman to turn her head off. That’s part of the joy of being a submissive. None of the decisions are yours. When you can’t refuse anything and can’t even move, those voices … Lees verder

je hoofd je hart en je bekken op één lijn

self-discovery Als je je hoofd je hart en je bekken op één lijn krijgt… Dat je hoofd snapt wat je hart nodig heeft en wat je bekken nodig heeft. Dat je snapt wanneer je jouw wensen moet begrenzen en waar … Lees verder

Labeltjes plakken of in hokjes stoppen?

self-discovery Je kan me zeven-en-twintig labels opplakken… Maar je moet me niet in een hokje willen stoppen Karin (Ms.Leather 2020) All KidR Quotes  

Liebe will aus sich herausgehen

Quote “Die Liebe will aus sich herausgehen, sich mit ihrem Opfer vermischen, wie der Sieger mit dem Besiegten, und dennoch Vorrechte des Eroberers bewahren.” Charles Baudelaire All KidR Quotes

Love each other without restraint …unless…

Quote – FUN “I urge you all today, especially today during these times of chaos and war, to love yourself without reservations and to love each other without restraint. Unless you’re into leather.” Margaret Cho All KidR Quotes

Love is a wonderful institution but…

Quote – Humor “Love is a wonderful institution but who wants to live in an institution?…” Unknown

Make sure your love exceeds…

Quote – Humor “Secret to a happy relationship: make sure your Love for another exceeds your need for the other.” Dalai Lama All KidR Quotes

My dominant discourse seems to be…

Quote – BDSM/self-discovery “My dominant (no pun intended) discourse seems to be needy as fuck…” Alexis Hall All KidR Quotes  

My sexual fetishes have been getting more perverse

Quote – Humor “Over the past year, my sexual fetishes have been slowly getting more and more perverse; But it wasn’t until I spanked a statue that I realised I’d hit rock bottom.” Unknown All KidR Quotes


Lust Only Foolish men suppose taking of a woman’s clothes is the best way to get her completely naked… Unknown All KidR Quotes  

Natuurlijk ben ik graag je onbereikbare muze

Quote – Humor Natuurlijk ben ik graag je onbereikbare muze, maar ik heb liever dat je gewoon naast me komt liggen. http://www.Loesje.nl All KidR Quotes

Norceuil’s teachings to Julliette

Lust Norceuil’s teachings to Julliette: “To escape slavery you shall have to embrace tyranny.” D.A.F. de Sade Not only must she embrace tyrants: she herself must become one… All KidR Quotes  

not because she lacks the ability to submit…

Quote – BDSM “If a woman is not submissive to a man it is not because she lacks the ability to submit; rather he lacked the ability to create for her a place in her heart and mind to fall … Lees verder

Over hokjes en labels en diversiteit

Quote – Self-discovery “Woorden zijn handig om grip te krijgen op gevoelens. Hokjes… je kan maar in een enkel hokje gezet worden. Maar labels… Als je ze een beetje zorgvuldig plaatst dan kan ik wel 100 verschillende op je kwijt! … Lees verder

Privilege is…

self-discovery Privilege is when something is not a problem because it is not a problem to you personally Unknown All KidR Quotes  

Proud of how happy I make him

self-discovery Acting so obviously submissive to Max around strangers, I felt a lot of humiliation. The looks from people, the comments. But I also felt this strange sense of pride. I am his possession, his property. And I’m proud of … Lees verder

Puntentelling voor de slavin

Quote – Humor? “Geilheid, Gehoorzaamheid, Bereidheid, Gracieus bewegen, Schoonheid, Sexual Skills, misschien ook Masochisme zijn allemaal “nullen”. Gezondheid is de één die er vóór staat.” Vrij naar een Chinees spreekwoord All KidR Quotes

Push it

Push It, Don’t Force It Quote – Love “Push It, Don’t Force It.” Hans, vrij naar Leon Haywood Let me help you to find that balance… Lyrics van “Don’t push it Don’t force it” op Googleplay* All KidR Quotes  

Relationship without trust

Quote – Humor A relationship without trust is like a phone without service, all you do is play games. unknown All KidR Quotes

Resentment is a signal

Quote – BDSM “Resentment is often a woman’s inner signal that she has been ignoring an important God-given responsibility – that of making choices.” Brenda Waggoner All KidR Quotes

Rose-coloured glasses and Red Flags

love If you do wear your rose-coloured glasses, you are still able to see red flags… but they’l appear to be just grey to you… Unknown   Nota Bene Als je meer: over Red Flags wilt lezen* Of de Relatieconversatie … Lees verder

Running wins

Quote – HUMOR “Henri Matisse ~ In love, the one who runs away is the winner.” Henri Matisse All KidR Quotes All KidR Quotes

S and M is only the expression in the bedroom of…

Quote – BDSM “S and M is only the expression in the bedroom of an oppressive-submissive relation which can happen also in the kitchen or at the factory, can happen between people of any gender. There is obviously something titillating … Lees verder

Seduction is enticing someone

Quote – Love “Seduction isn’t making someone do what they don’t want to do. Seduction is enticing someone into doing what they secretly want to do already.” Waiter Rant  

Seks is een schitterend oefenveld

Seks gebruik ik graag als actief oefenveld omdat het zo veel niveaus in één keer beslaat. Maar het is een oefenveld dat ik als therapeut niet zelf moet willen betreden met mijn klanten. Lees verder

Self-pleasuring as a radical act.

Quote – BDSM “in a society that has based much of its selling upon instilling fear and insecurity, self-pleasuring is a radical act…” Miss Wunderland All KidR Quotes

Sex and love and tension

Quote – Humor Sex relieves tension – Love causes it. Woody Allen All KidR Quotes

Sex doesn’t have to conform to society’s standards

Quote – BDSM “Sex doesn’t have to conform to society’s standards to be sane. It doesn’t have to be slow and tender to be safe. And it doesn’t have to be free of leather cuffs to be consensual.” Pam Godwin … Lees verder

Sex is a team sport

Quote – BDSM “Sex is a team sport, sugar.” Cherise Sinclair (in: Breaking Free) All KidR Quotes

Sex without love is an empty experience…

Quote – Humor Diane Keaton: “Sex without love is an empty experience.” Woody: “Yeah… but as empty experiences go it’s one of the best.” Woody Allen (Love and Death – 1975)

Sex: In America an obsession

Quote – Humor Sex: In America an obsession. In other parts of the world a fact. Marlene Dietrich All KidR Quotes

Shatter your dreams…

Quote – BDSM/self-discovery “Sometimes, the only way to make your dreams come true is to shatter them.” Pepper Winters (Twisted Together) All KidR Quotes  

She’s my answer for the need

“I’m the answer to her pain. She’s my answer for the need for it.”
Willow Madison Lees verder

Submission is about relationships of love and respect

Quote – BDSM “Submission is not about authority and it is not obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” William Paul Young (in: The Shack) All KidR Quotes

The ass is…

Lust “The ass is the face of the soul of sex.” Charles Bukowski All KidR Quotes  

The Butt is (not) a magical place

Lust “The Butt is not a magical place that only gay people can visit, like a leather bar or the Liberace museum.” Dan Savage Nota Bene Nou is er ook voor hetero’s in Amsterdam wel degelijk een mogelijkheid om een … Lees verder

the joy of being a submissive

Quote – BDSM/self-discovery “It’s hard for an educated woman to turn her head off. That’s part of the joy of being a submissive. None of the decisions are yours. When you can’t refuse anything and can’t even move, those voices … Lees verder

The person that you care for the most…

Relatie “The person that you care for the most, is the person that you’ll let hurt you the most.” Unknown All KidR Quotes  

The power of Play!

Quote – Self Discovery “You learn more about someone in an hour of play than in a year of conversation.” Unknown (to me) All KidR Quotes

The two parts of me…

Quote – BDSM “Part of me wants to make this boy bruise, bleed, and sob, and part of me wants to soothe him and care for him. The typically complex yearnings of the kinkily queer.” Jeff Mann All KidR Quotes

There’s “ship” in relationship

Quote There’s “ship” in relationship: beautiful sandy shores, nasty changes in wind, weather and undertows, there’s labour and harbors. Hans West Misschien is het dat ik als woonboot bewoner wel wat extra verbinding voel met de schip-metafoor… maar niks voor … Lees verder

Und wenn du nichts für mich tust…

Und wenn du nichts für mich tust… Dann tust du es gut … Lees verder

Unless you’re into leather…

Quote – BDSM “I urge you all today, especially today during these times of chaos and war, to love yourself without reservations and to love each other without restraint. Unless you’re into leather.” Margaret Cho All KidR Quotes

Vertrouwen is een gevoel

Quote – Love “Vertrouwen is een gevoel dat in iemand ontstaat als over een langere tijd iemands woorden overeenkomen met iemands gedrag.” Hans P.S. Daarbij gaat het er dus niet om “dat je niks fout doet” maar dat “wat je … Lees verder

Wat het is om slavin te kunnen zijn

Quote – BDSM “Ik wil zo vrij zijn als een vogeltje in een gouden kooi Ik wil beschermd worden en ik wil overmeesterd worden Ik wil op handen gedragen worden en ik wil op de grond gegooid worden Ik wil … Lees verder

What irritates us about others…

Quote – Humor “Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” Carl Gustav Jung All KidR Quotes

What kind of sex is worth…

Lust “What kind of sex is worth wanting?” Peggy Kleinplatz Een belangrijke vraag om jet te helpen erbij stil te staan wat jij wilt hebben, wat jij mee gemaakt wil hebben. Soms leveren we dingen in die we niet hadden … Lees verder

What spring does with cherry trees

Love “I want to do with you what spring does with the cherry trees” Pablo Neruda (from “Twenty Love Poems and a Song of Despair”) All KidR Quotes  

What the anti-kink fanatics don’t understand about us is that we’re geeks

Quote – BDSM “That’s what’s so ironic about the conservative backlash against BDSMers. With increased visibility comes increased bigotry, and conservatives continue to rally against kinky events by local groups to get them shut down. What the anti-kink fanatics don’t … Lees verder

What was the point in satin and lace if…

Quote – Lust “What was the point in satin and lace if it didn’t make a man struggle to speak?” Alexandra Ivy (in: Embrace The Darkness) All KidR Quotes

Wordt het ruzie of sex?

Quote – Relatie? “We hebben ruzies over verliefdheden en jaloezie en hebben ondertussen al anderhalf jaar nauwelijks fysiek nauwelijks een relatie…” Karin Spaink P.S. Ik vraag mensen wel eens waar ze hun vuur in leggen naar elkaar… All KidR Quotes

You WILL be restrained, you know…

Quote – BDSM/self-discovery “You may choose who will put you in restraints in this life… You’ll either be restrained by me or by your own embarrassment.” Hans All KidR Quotes  

Your heart just breaks, that’s all

self-discovery Your heart just breaks, that’s all. But you can’t judge or point fingers. You just have to be lucky enough to find someone who appreciates you. Audrey Hepburn All KidR Quotes  

Your madness fits in nicely

Quote – Love Your madness fits in nicely with my own, with my own. Robert Wyatt All KidR Quotes