Quotes

“Different Quotes.”

by different people

… and I’m staying

Quote – Love “Love says: I’ve seen the ugly parts of you, and I’m staying.” Matt Chandler Let me help you to see the beauty in what you now may see as your ugly parts… All KidR Quotes

A right to command merely because you are older…

Quote – BDSM “I do not think, sir, you have any right to command me, merely because you are older than I, or because you have seen more of the world than I have; your claim to superiority depends on … Lees verder →

An apology has its right place

Quote – Self-discovery “An apology in the right place is good for the soul. But too much of that good thing weakens selfworth or weakens relations.” Hans All KidR Quotes

Anxiety turns one back on oneself

“Anxiety suggests a fear while Desire takes one out of oneself, into the possibility or relationship, but it also takes one deeper into oneself. Anxiety turns one back on oneself, but only onto the self that is already known.” Lees verder →

Are you a priority or an option?

Never make someone a priority who sees you only as an option. Lees verder →

Being life’s bitch is no fun at all

Quote – BDSM “By all means be submissive in the bedroom (if you are that way inclined), but don’t be submissive to life. Being life’s bitch is no fun at all. Life may play up in many ways, but it’s … Lees verder →

Consent is mutual discovery

Lust Consensual sex is a mutual discovery of where everyone overlaps in their desires. Unknown ConSenterKlaas (cadeautje: een workshop) Ik ben een aantal workshops aan het geven over consent en wil wat meer feeling ontwikkelen in de praktijk voor verschillende … Lees verder →

Continually seduce consent from the bottom

Quote – BDSM “The number one job of the dominant is to continually seduce consent from the bottom.” Joseph Bean All KidR Quotes

De kwaliteit van een BDSM-sessie en de nasmaak

Quote – BDSM naSMaak “Aan de nasmaak van een maaltijd kan je vaak meer zeggen over de kwaliteit van de producten in die maaltijd dan aan de smaak op het moment van het eten.” Hans (bij een BDSM-sessie heb ik … Lees verder →

Denken over ons kompas

self-discovery We begrijpen eigenlijk altijd achteraf pas wat we waarom deden… Maar we zullen voorwaarts onze beslissingen moeten maken… dus voordat we dit overzicht hebben. En het enige dat we hebben is het kompas van ons gevoel en de planning … Lees verder →

Dirty and nasty but I wanted more

Quote – BDSM “I’d done it, I’d crossed the line between accepted behavior and behavior most of the population would consider a lynching offense, and that morning I felt as real as any of the men in the Escape commercials. … Lees verder →

Dit is je leven

self-discovery Misschien heb je meerdere levens? Dat weet ik niet… Maar je hebt maar één leven als jou! Een leven waarin we dingen kunnen maken en waar we dingen in kunnen laten groeien. En we kunnen in een enkel moment … Lees verder →

Does a demand for respect means giving up freedom?

Quote – LOVE “I think too many equate respect with exclusivity and think that a demand for respect means giving up freedom. They are independent of each other” @Darenzia All KidR Quotes

Een groot nadeel van cheating

Quote – Lust (Humor) “Een groot nadeel van cheating is dat het altijd uitkomt op een moment… dat het niet uitkomt.” Hans All KidR Quotes

Einen Rest von Illusionen

Quote – Relatie “Um gemeinsam leben zu können, muss man sich einen Rest von Illusionen bewahren.” Gabriel Marcel All KidR Quotes

Everything is about sex

Quote – BDSM “Everything in the world is about sex except sex… Sex is about power.” Oscar Wilde< All KidR Quotes

Fases in het integreren van kink in een leven

Humor Fases in het integreren van kink in een leven… Dat je merkt: Mijn auto correct is aan het verkinksteren!… en DIT moment is en nou ECHT effe een moment om NIET op “send” klikken All KidR Quotes

Fear that would excite and fear that…

Quote – BDSM “There was a fine line between fear that would excite and fear that would paralyze the senses.” Cherise Sinclair (in: Club Shadowlands) All KidR Quotes

Geluk: hoofd, hart en bekken op één lijn

self-discovery Geluk is als je jouw hoofd, je hart en je bekken op één lijn krijgt… Dat je hoofd snapt wat jouw hart nodig heeft en wat jouw bekken nodig heeft. Dat je snapt wanneer je jouw wensen moet begrenzen … Lees verder →

Greta Garbo: I have never had an impulse to go to the altar

“There are some who want to get married and others who don’t. I have never had an impulse to go to the altar. I am a difficult person to lead.”
Greta Garbo (in: Greta and Cecil) Lees verder →

Having someone on their knees for you makes you vulnerable

Quote – BDSM “I had no idea it would be like this. That having someone on their knees for you would make you so vulnerable.” Alexis Hall (in: For Real) All KidR Quotes

Het risico van “don’t ask, don’t tell”

Quote – Relatie (Lust) Het risico van “don’t ask, don’t tell” is dat met een beetje pech ineens blijkt dat je met z’n tweeën twee totaal verschillende relaties blijkt te hebben met elkaar… Hans Dat verschil tussen fantasie en realiteit … Lees verder →

I had no idea it would be like this

Quote – BDSM/self-discovery “I had no idea it would be like this. That having someone on their knees for you would make you so vulnerable.” Annabel Joseph, Cirque de Minuit All KidR Quotes

I hid my shameful perversions under a facade of prudishness

self-discovery “Thus, I lived in perpetual fantasy. And like all intelligent young women, I hid my shameful perversions under a facade of prudishness. Of course I did. It’s easy to tell the dirtiest minds-look for the cleanest fingernails.” Ottessa Moshfegh … Lees verder →

If a relationship has to be a secret…

Quote – LOVE “If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.” Regina Brett All KidR Quotes

If you can fake that, you’re in! ;-)

Quote – HUMOR “Honesty is the key to a relationship. If you can fake that, you’re in!” L Molotoff All KidR Quotes

If you wanna be tough, grow a vagina

Quote – Humor “Why do people say “grow some balls”? Balls are weak and sensitive. If you wanna be tough, grow a vagina. Those things can take a pounding.” Betty White

Is it the collar or the happiness?

Quote – BDSM “You look extra beautiful tonight, Ker.” “It’s the collar.” “Maybe. I think it’s the happiness. You wear it well.” “It’s the same thing.” Sean Michael (in: Trust) All KidR Quotes

Ishtar – Pasen

self-discovery ishtar is de naam van de godin Assyrische en Babylonische godin van seks en van voortplanting. Nadat Constantijn besloot om Christendom als het algemeen geloof aan te nemen voor zijn rijk werd het feest van Ishtar maar aan Jezus … Lees verder →

It’s been so long since I made love #JoanRivers

Quote – LUST “It’s been so long since I made love I can’t even remember who gets tied up.” Joan Rivers All KidR Quotes

It’s hard to turn the head off

Quote – BDSM “It’s hard for an educated woman to turn her head off. That’s part of the joy of being a submissive. None of the decisions are yours. When you can’t refuse anything and can’t even move, those voices … Lees verder →

je hoofd je hart en je bekken op één lijn

self-discovery Als je je hoofd je hart en je bekken op één lijn krijgt… Dat je hoofd snapt wat je hart nodig heeft en wat je bekken nodig heeft. Dat je snapt wanneer je jouw wensen moet begrenzen en waar … Lees verder →

Labeltjes plakken of in hokjes stoppen?

self-discovery Je kan me zeven-en-twintig labels opplakken… Maar je moet me niet in een hokje willen stoppen Karin (Ms.Leather 2020) All KidR Quotes

Liebe will aus sich herausgehen

Quote “Die Liebe will aus sich herausgehen, sich mit ihrem Opfer vermischen, wie der Sieger mit dem Besiegten, und dennoch Vorrechte des Eroberers bewahren.” Charles Baudelaire All KidR Quotes

Love each other without restraint …unless…

Quote – FUN “I urge you all today, especially today during these times of chaos and war, to love yourself without reservations and to love each other without restraint. Unless you’re into leather.” Margaret Cho All KidR Quotes

Love is a wonderful institution but…

Quote – Humor “Love is a wonderful institution but who wants to live in an institution?…” Unknown

Make sure your love exceeds…

Quote – Humor “Secret to a happy relationship: make sure your Love for another exceeds your need for the other.” Dalai Lama All KidR Quotes

My dominant discourse seems to be…

Quote – BDSM/self-discovery “My dominant (no pun intended) discourse seems to be needy as fuck…” Alexis Hall All KidR Quotes

My sexual fetishes have been getting more perverse

Quote – Humor “Over the past year, my sexual fetishes have been slowly getting more and more perverse; But it wasn’t until I spanked a statue that I realised I’d hit rock bottom.” Unknown All KidR Quotes

Nakedness

Lust Only Foolish men suppose taking of a woman’s clothes is the best way to get her completely naked… Unknown All KidR Quotes

Natuurlijk ben ik graag je onbereikbare muze

Quote – Humor Natuurlijk ben ik graag je onbereikbare muze, maar ik heb liever dat je gewoon naast me komt liggen. http://www.Loesje.nl All KidR Quotes

not because she lacks the ability to submit…

Quote – BDSM “If a woman is not submissive to a man it is not because she lacks the ability to submit; rather he lacked the ability to create for her a place in her heart and mind to fall … Lees verder →

Over hokjes en labels en diversiteit

Quote – Self-discovery “Woorden zijn handig om grip te krijgen op gevoelens. Hokjes… je kan maar in een enkel hokje gezet worden. Maar labels… Als je ze een beetje zorgvuldig plaatst dan kan ik wel 100 verschillende op je kwijt! … Lees verder →

Privilege is…

self-discovery Privilege is when something is not a problem because it is not a problem to you personally Unknown All KidR Quotes

Proud of how happy I make him

self-discovery Acting so obviously submissive to Max around strangers, I felt a lot of humiliation. The looks from people, the comments. But I also felt this strange sense of pride. I am his possession, his property. And I’m proud of … Lees verder →

Puntentelling voor de slavin

Quote – Humor? “Geilheid, Gehoorzaamheid, Bereidheid, Gracieus bewegen, Schoonheid, Sexual Skills, misschien ook Masochisme zijn allemaal “nullen”. Gezondheid is de één die er vóór staat.” Vrij naar een Chinees spreekwoord All KidR Quotes

Push it

Push It, Don’t Force It Quote – Love “Push It, Don’t Force It.” Hans, vrij naar Leon Haywood Let me help you to find that balance… Lyrics van “Don’t push it Don’t force it” op Googleplay* All KidR Quotes

Relationship without trust

Quote – Humor A relationship without trust is like a phone without service, all you do is play games. unknown All KidR Quotes

Resentment is a signal

Quote – BDSM “Resentment is often a woman’s inner signal that she has been ignoring an important God-given responsibility – that of making choices.” Brenda Waggoner All KidR Quotes

Rose-coloured glasses and Red Flags

love If you do wear your rose-coloured glasses, you are still able to see red flags… but they’l appear to be just grey to you… Unknown Nota Bene Als je meer: over Red Flags wilt lezen* Of de Relatieconversatie … Lees verder →

Running wins

Quote – HUMOR “Henri Matisse ~ In love, the one who runs away is the winner.” Henri Matisse All KidR Quotes All KidR Quotes

S and M is only the expression in the bedroom of…

Quote – BDSM “S and M is only the expression in the bedroom of an oppressive-submissive relation which can happen also in the kitchen or at the factory, can happen between people of any gender. There is obviously something titillating … Lees verder →

Seduction is enticing someone

Quote – Love “Seduction isn’t making someone do what they don’t want to do. Seduction is enticing someone into doing what they secretly want to do already.” Waiter Rant

Seks is een schitterend oefenveld

Seks gebruik ik graag als actief oefenveld omdat het zo veel niveaus in één keer beslaat. Maar het is een oefenveld dat ik als therapeut niet zelf moet willen betreden met mijn klanten. Lees verder →

Self-pleasuring as a radical act.

Quote – BDSM “in a society that has based much of its selling upon instilling fear and insecurity, self-pleasuring is a radical act…” Miss Wunderland All KidR Quotes

Sex and love and tension

Quote – Humor Sex relieves tension – Love causes it. Woody Allen All KidR Quotes

Sex doesn’t have to conform to society’s standards

Quote – BDSM “Sex doesn’t have to conform to society’s standards to be sane. It doesn’t have to be slow and tender to be safe. And it doesn’t have to be free of leather cuffs to be consensual.” Pam Godwin … Lees verder →

Sex is a team sport

Quote – BDSM “Sex is a team sport, sugar.” Cherise Sinclair (in: Breaking Free) All KidR Quotes

Sex without love is an empty experience…

Quote – Humor Diane Keaton: “Sex without love is an empty experience.” Woody: “Yeah… but as empty experiences go it’s one of the best.” Woody Allen (Love and Death – 1975)

Sex: In America an obsession

Quote – Humor Sex: In America an obsession. In other parts of the world a fact. Marlene Dietrich All KidR Quotes

Shatter your dreams…

Quote – BDSM/self-discovery “Sometimes, the only way to make your dreams come true is to shatter them.” Pepper Winters (Twisted Together) All KidR Quotes

She’s my answer for the need

“I’m the answer to her pain. She’s my answer for the need for it.”
Willow Madison Lees verder →

Submission is about relationships of love and respect

Quote – BDSM “Submission is not about authority and it is not obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” William Paul Young (in: The Shack) All KidR Quotes

The ass is…

Lust “The ass is the face of the soul of sex.” Charles Bukowski All KidR Quotes

The Butt is (not) a magical place

Lust “The Butt is not a magical place that only gay people can visit, like a leather bar or the Liberace museum.” Dan Savage Nota Bene Nou is er ook voor hetero’s in Amsterdam wel degelijk een mogelijkheid om een … Lees verder →

the joy of being a submissive

Quote – BDSM/self-discovery “It’s hard for an educated woman to turn her head off. That’s part of the joy of being a submissive. None of the decisions are yours. When you can’t refuse anything and can’t even move, those voices … Lees verder →

The person that you care for the most…

Relatie “The person that you care for the most, is the person that you’ll let hurt you the most.” Unknown All KidR Quotes

The power of Play!

Quote – Self Discovery “You learn more about someone in an hour of play than in a year of conversation.” Unknown (to me) All KidR Quotes

The two parts of me…

Quote – BDSM “Part of me wants to make this boy bruise, bleed, and sob, and part of me wants to soothe him and care for him. The typically complex yearnings of the kinkily queer.” Jeff Mann All KidR Quotes

There’s “ship” in relationship

Quote There’s “ship” in relationship: beautiful sandy shores, nasty changes in wind, weather and undertows, there’s labour and harbors. Hans West Misschien is het dat ik als woonboot bewoner wel wat extra verbinding voel met de schip-metafoor… maar niks voor … Lees verder →

Und wenn du nichts für mich tust…

Und wenn du nichts für mich tust… Dann tust du es gut … Lees verder →

Unless you’re into leather…

Quote – BDSM “I urge you all today, especially today during these times of chaos and war, to love yourself without reservations and to love each other without restraint. Unless you’re into leather.” Margaret Cho All KidR Quotes

Vertrouwen is een gevoel

Quote – Love “Vertrouwen is een gevoel dat in iemand ontstaat als over een langere tijd iemands woorden overeenkomen met iemands gedrag.” Hans P.S. Daarbij gaat het er dus niet om “dat je niks fout doet” maar dat “wat je … Lees verder →

Wat het is om slavin te kunnen zijn

Quote – BDSM “Ik wil zo vrij zijn als een vogeltje in een gouden kooi Ik wil beschermd worden en ik wil overmeesterd worden Ik wil op handen gedragen worden en ik wil op de grond gegooid worden Ik wil … Lees verder →

What irritates us about others…

Quote – Humor “Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” Carl Gustav Jung All KidR Quotes

What spring does with cherry trees

Love “I want to do with you what spring does with the cherry trees” Pablo Neruda (from “Twenty Love Poems and a Song of Despair”) All KidR Quotes

What the anti-kink fanatics don’t understand about us is that we’re geeks

Quote – BDSM “That’s what’s so ironic about the conservative backlash against BDSMers. With increased visibility comes increased bigotry, and conservatives continue to rally against kinky events by local groups to get them shut down. What the anti-kink fanatics don’t … Lees verder →